2019! The Year That Has Been!

Well 2019, I’m not sure where you have gone, but you have been great! When I reflect on the year that has been, I know exactly where it went! Full of fun, new experiences and growth. There was never a dull moment in 2019, that’s for sure.

When I think about the last year, I would say it is one year where I stepped out of my comfort zone more than ever before, and this stems across a lot of aspects of my life – health, career and relationships. I attended social events that I normally would have declined, because of the unknown, I pushed my body in relation to what it is capable of doing, and that my friend I was shown that the power of the mind can really outweigh the abilities of the body.

So let’s take a trip down memory lane…

Health

This year my health was an interesting one. I continued training at my beloved Hustle and Thrive, and after the June challenge I would say I was the fittest and healthiest I have ever been. Back in May I challenged my body and my mind, with 7 other kick ass women, walking 60km at Coastrek to raise funds for the Fred Hollows Foundation. The training was gruelling, and I can tell you, during some of those training sessions I was ready to give up. My mind can be a bit of a b**ch sometimes. She was telling me “you can’t do this. You are already tired and sore. You are going to let the whole team down” (she’s a nasty piece of work, isn’t she?!). However, on the day, I got my butt out of bed, and I just did it. There wasn’t a moment on that day, not even when it was pitch black, and pouring with rain did I consider giving up. I just kept on going. I did it, we all did it!
I ran my first 10km run at Run Melbourne. What a high that was! Again, my nasty mind would pop up (I need to find a name for this self-talking negative Nelly, but not Nelly, that doesn’t ‘feel’ right). She would tell me how I couldn’t breathe. How my legs couldn’t go on. How I was slow. How I’m not a runner. How back in primary school I was always the slowest. Always one of the last people to be picked on a team. How I wasn’t allowed to try out for the Cross-Country Athletics because of my heart (more about my dicky heart in a moment). Despite all that, I did do it. I had my run coaches voice in the back of my head “feet in, tram tracks, shoulders back, breathe, remember to breathe. The last 3kms I want you to give it everything you’ve got – nothing left in the tank!” That is what I did, and I got there, out of breath but on a complete high! After Run Melbourne, I started considering my options for Melbourne Marathon and deliberated over attempting my first half marathon. I decided to calm my farm and stick to 10km to get comfortable and attempt to beat my Run Melbourne time.

Unfortunately for me, my heart had other plans. Our bodies respond in funny ways when we are stressed. Sometimes we don’t even realise how much pressure we are putting ourselves under until our bodies start acting in strange ways “Alert! Alert! Slow down!” So I was unable to participate in Melbourne Marathon, and had to give up training for a short period of time. I was gutted. I was gutted because I worked my butt off for that event. I was gutted because I was on a roll with training. I was gutted because it brought back those memories of when I was told that I couldn’t do certain things. At the end of the day, I am grateful for the investigations that were had. I listened to what the doctor’s said, because it was serious, and guys, I still have a lot of plans in this life, so I’m not prepared to leave just yet. Yes, I have an irregular heartbeat, but after some investigations it was decided that there should be no reason as to why I can’t go back to running, and training. Getting back into it was tough. My mind ruled the roost. I was scared of being out of breath, of discovering the decline in my fitness level and of my body hurting. I had to count on some accountability buddies to get me to classes, and I have since made a gradual come back.

Health and fitness in 2020: I have started considering my options in regards to events, and I am going to give the 10km at Run Melbourne another crack!

Be mindful about having a work/life balance.

Career

I finished studying! (For now! *insert eye roll*) It’s hard to believe that in this decade I graduated to become a Kindergarten Teacher, studied my Masters in Special Needs Education, and now I’ve thrown caution to the wind and have completed my Diploma in Remedial Massage and started my business – who would have thought?! Not me! But you know what? I would rather be challenging myself, discovering new things and pursuing what is going to make me happy, rather than feeling like I am stuck doing something that I was no longer fulfilling. Now I can’t tell you how many times I heard “but you are so good at what you do!” as though that was it for me. Yes, I have strong maternal instincts. I still love teaching children and caring for them. They still bring me joy, but the job itself was no longer bringing me joy. The paper work, it had become relentless, and I actually wasn’t seeing the point or the value in it. Paper work for paper works sake. When you are told continuously that you are ‘good’ at something, yes it is nice, but I started thinking, surely, surely there is something else out there that I can be good at. That I can reserve my maternal instincts to my nieces, to my friends children, and eventually when…and if I ever get the chance, my own children. Sure enough, I found something. Something that I am passionate about. Something that is going to help others.

Career in 2020: Exciting times ahead! Who knows where my new found career is going to take me. It has already brought me so many exciting and new opportunities that I am going to continue to apply myself and roll with the punches!

Relationships

Relationships take all forms – family, friends, acquaintances and romantic relationships. I have had a wonderful year with my family and friends, we have created so many beautiful memories that I will cherish forever.

I have to say I have a bit of a laugh when I think about my love life during 2019. What an experience. This is an area I jumped wayyyyyy out of my comfort zone. Online dating, blind dates. I’ve been on more ‘dates’ this year than in my whole life, and what an eye opener that has been. With each person I have met I have become better at working out what I want and what I don’t want. I’ve broken my own rules, and I discovered that it’s ok to break your own rules, because it allows you to live…and will also remind you as to why you had those rules in the first place. I channelled my inner Ted Mosby, on the pursuit of finding ‘the one,’ and have declared on more than one occasion that maybe relationships aren’t for me, maybe I am suppose to be the ‘single Aunty.’ Then I tell myself to get over myself, and that is not the case at all. Who knows really.

I never thought I would be the type of woman that had to consider that her “biological clock is ticking” because it is a true reality, which I think has made me put more pressure on myself. However, I am increasingly aware of the fact that I am not willing to settle. I’m not willing to settle for less than I deserve, to be in an unhappy relationship, to wake up one day and feel like I just settled. Life is too short to be in an unhappy relationship, and at the end of the day, if my cards have been dealt and I am suppose to be that ‘single Aunty’ at least science has my back and I can have children on my own. The unknown is a scary thing, but you have to have your own back. You have to keep the faith because deep down I still refuse to believe or accept that these are the cards that I have been dealt with, and if they are, well, at least I’ve got a plan B!

Relationships in 2020: To be more present and focused when around loved ones.

So, my dear readers. That is 2019, summed up in a nutshell.

Thank-you for coming along with me on my blogging journey!

Have a safe and happy new year!

See you in 2020!

The Magic of Christmas!

When I was a child everything was magical. I believed that there were fairies that lived in the garden. I would try and find them. I believed that garden gnomes came alive and were friends with the fairies. I loved books by Shirley Barber (no relative of mine) that were about fairies, and they were so beautifully illustrated, that’s how fairies looked in my mind.
I believed I was Trini, the yellow Power Ranger. I had the ‘heart’ ring from Captain Planet. I believed my toys came alive at night, or when I wasn’t around – just like in Toy Story and Johnson and Friends. I had a great imagination.
Christmas. There was nothing quiet more magical than Christmas. The lead up to Christmas was always so exciting! Visiting Santa to ask him for a specific toy and have our photo taken, writing a wish list to send to the North Pole and having a chocolate each day from my advent calendar.
Oh the excitement on Christmas Eve where my sister and my cousins would be convinced that we saw Santa and his reindeer in the night sky, or that we heard his bells, or that we heard them land on our roof!
Christmas Day was filled with excitement. The ridiculous amounts of presents that were under the tree. The excitement was contagious! Surrounded by family and food. The whole day was special.
And that’s how I always want Christmas to be. When you stop believing in Santa. When you get older, and the reality of ‘life’ takes its toll. People who were once with us to celebrate such occasions are no longer with us, and in these occasions we miss them even more. You appreciate your nearest and dearest, and the moments that you get to spend together. I made the decision that I always want Christmas to feel magical. That the moment when you wake up in the morning, that it is a special day and that it will be until you go to bed that evening. That everyone that you surround yourself with feels the magic, the excitement and that they feel loved and appreciated too. Of course, making your loved ones feel this way should be a priority no matter what time of the year, but I think re-creating the magic is important too.

Belonging

She belongs everywhere
Yet nowhere at the same time
She gets excited by the city skyline
But can’t stand the hustle and bustle
The country air calls her
To hear the gravel crunching beneath her feet
The feeling of peace
As nature wraps itself around her
Only to be beckoned by the sea
As the waves lap gently up to shore
Then slowly leave again to the vast unknown
Where you a reminded that you are only small
In a world so big
Where possibilities are endless
And in these possibilities is held, the great unknown
She wants to be everywhere
Yet yearns to be certain of where she wants to be

Integrity

When a person has integrity it means that they have a high standard of morals, beliefs, and values, they’re honest and truthful. These characteristics are not just something that is spoken; it is evident within the individual person’s actions. Often we can be out of integrity in many aspects of our life – our life purpose, money, relationships, career, the list goes on.
Let’s take a moment to consider dog owners. It is the responsibility of a dog owner to pick up their dogs ‘business’ from the nature strips, footpaths, or wherever else our four-legged friends decide to drop one. In the instance that they drop one and you think you can get away without picking it up, you know…the cheeky look around to see if anyone is watching and quickly getting out of there, is acting out of integrity (then when your neighbour’s dog takes a dump on your lawn, that my friends is called karma).
Despite believing that we do act in integrity sometimes our actions demonstrate the opposite. We may have a strong sense of what is wrong and what is right, but out of fear, or the power of manipulation of others we can act out of our own integrity. For instance we can feel out of integrity with ourselves by just not feeling ‘right.’ There is a sense that something is wrong or uncomfortable and you may not be able to put your finger on what it is.
We can be out of integrity with others. How many times have you surrounded yourself with people that just aren’t your jam? Your belief systems are different, your morals and values are different, yet to fit in, to be accepted, to be liked, you continue to hang around people who make you feel pretty crappy about yourself. They don’t build you up. In fact, they might put you down, it might come across as a joke and you might laugh but if it doesn’t ‘feel’ right, then it’s not right. Ever meet someone from the word go that you just don’t ‘like?’. You might not know them from a bar of soap, but your intuition, your ‘gut instinct’ tells you otherwise, this could be because you’re out of integrity with one another.
When we are out of integrity or alignment it is difficult to manifest what you want. We often hear ‘like attracts like’ so if you’re out of integrity you’re going to attract more of what you don’t want – this applies to your career, your relationships, money, peace – anything else you could possibly want, is difficult to manifest when you’re out of integrity.
Think about your values and beliefs, what is important to you, and do what you can to align yourself with those values and beliefs. Surround yourself with positive people that are going to build you up, that want what is best for you. Act with integrity and act accordingly to build the life that you want for yourself and that you rightly deserve.

Priorities

As an adult we have a long list of things “to-do.” It’s either physically written down, recorded in our smart phones or stored somewhere in our brains. While we are often aware of our priorities we tend to just go through the motions – get up, go to work, pay the bills, eat, sleep, repeat. We seem to be programmed. Life isn’t that simple. Sometimes we are thrown curve balls, or we make the decision to add other layers to our lives – studying, starting a new hobby, changing jobs, relationships, fly fishing…what ever takes your fancy really. We some how have to find a balance and make sure that our priorities match our goals and vision for the future that we want.

This is why I have been absent from blogging. I have had to prioritise my time and energy to ensure what needs to get done does get done in the most effective and efficient way (not to mention writers block, but I shall keep that for another time). Now let me tell you what I have learnt about this…I am a pretty good procrastinator! For instance, I’ve got a shite load of boxes sitting in the garage that have been there since I moved into this house about a year and a half ago. I know those boxes are there and I keep telling myself I will crush them and recycle them thoughtfully….now that I have assignments coming out of my ears, a business to try and build, work to attend to, and overall life admin – nothing seems more important now then getting rid of those damn boxes! I know you hear what I am saying. I have had to exercise some self control – will the world end if those boxes aren’t crushed? No…I mean the world might end, but not because I haven’t crushed those boxes.

When we have visions for our future in any shape or form it can become overwhelming. While you can sit down and think about where you would like to be in 3, 5 or 10 years time, often you won’t have a clue, however when you make the decision and have a rough idea of where you would like to be, taking the first steps towards these goals can be a challenge. For me personally I get really overwhelmed at the thought of where I would like to be. Yes, I should break my goals down into more manageable chunks, but it is scary and anxiety provoking. So much so that I end up feeling like a dead weight that isn’t moving any where and everything that I am working for constantly feels out of reach.

So what is the solution? Keep moving forward. When procrastination or fear sets in, to sit with it, acknowledge it and then continue to push through, until our goals are no longer at our finger tips, but instead in the palms of our hands.

“Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important.” Stephan R. Covey

Meditation May

Happy June people!

Where on earth has the first half of the year gone?

For the month of May my mini challenge was to meditate every day – I did a 10 minute meditation in the morning before getting up, followed by a 30 minute meditation in the evening before bed.

Did this practice change my life? I would have to say yes, yes it did!

The morning meditation included the affirmation “Today is going to be a good day…Today is a good day.” When I wasn’t feeling on top of my game I would come back to this mantra and say it to myself. It made such a difference. Sometimes when you say an affirmation or a mantra to yourself you can feel a bit goofy, but the more you say it the more you feel it, and it really does happen. Now this is not to say that shite didn’t happen, because shite did and does happen. However there was a part of the mediation that talks about if you are faced with challenge throughout the day that you will be able to handle it, and sure enough, any challenges that did come my way I was able to handle.

The evening meditation was about letting go of the past and clearing the charkas. In the evening I would most of the time fall asleep during this meditation, however I believe subconsciously the meditation still has an effect.

I also attended a meditation class during the month which I absolutely love. To be in another environment with like minded people where you have permission to do nothing else but meditate. There is nothing to do, no where to be, but to just be present in the moment. I’ve been attending these meditation sessions with Lulu for 2.5 years now, and always look forward to going. I have popped Lulu’s details down the bottom if you are interested in joining a meditation class.

There are so many meditation apps out there now, and some great meditations on YouTube. You just have to find what suits you and what you are looking for. There have been times in the past where I have felt to wired and to frantic to meditate, but these are the times that you need it the most. To stop. To concentrate on your breathing. You would be surprised at how much more productive you can be when you take 10 minutes out to meditate. It can set you back on your tracks where you can think clearer and get more done.

Lulu’s Place Psychic Healer Positive Life Coach

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Morning Meditation: Morning Meditation 10 Minutes – Positive Affirmations to start your day

Evening Meditation: Cut the Chords of Past and Present

The Power of Words

We learn to speak from such a young age. Speaking is difficult when you really think about it. Once we learn to speak we do so in order to communicate with others, to ask for help and to socialise. However as we get older, we learn that some things are not appropriate to say, for instance it would be rude to say to a waiter in a restaurant “I want water now” (channelling a 2 year old talking to their mother or father). We learn the social cues that are acceptable, and what are not. However, if you delve deeper, if you pull apart words that you say in your everyday life you will discover that they can change the whole idea of your statement, whether you intend to or not.
I have become aware that I unintentionally use the word “just.” Such a funny word. One in which can change your innocent comment into one in which is rather negative. Nothing is ever ‘just.’ ‘Just a minute’ often means more than a minute, or could be less than a minute. If someone asks ‘how long are you going away for?’ and you reply “just 6 nights” it implies that 6 nights is not enough, when someone else would love to be away for 2 nights, and 6 nights would be an absolute dream. The minute you put the word ‘just’ in front of anything you are toning it down. ‘What are you studying?’ ‘Just massage therapy’ like that is not enough? It automatically indicates that you don’t hold value to what you are studying, when being a massage therapist can help so many people in so many ways. ‘I’m just a nurse.’ You are the person attending to sick individuals every day in a way that no-one else can. ‘I’m just a cleaner.’ You help prevent people from getting sick by keeping buildings, workspaces, frequently visited places clean. Are you getting my drift?
Be mindful of the way in which you speak. It certainly is reflective of how you view yourself and the world around you. The words you say can denote if you have a positive outlook, with the glass being half full, or a more negative outlook with the glass being half empty. Being conscious and actively attempting to change the words you use on a regular basis can assist you in changing your whole outlook.
You are never ‘just’ anything.
Remember that, you are never ‘just’ anything.

Mindful Mel 🙂