We learn to speak from such a young age. Speaking is difficult when you really think about it. Once we learn to speak we do so in order to communicate with others, to ask for help and to socialise. However as we get older, we learn that some things are not appropriate to say, for instance it would be rude to say to a waiter in a restaurant “I want water now” (channelling a 2 year old talking to their mother or father). We learn the social cues that are acceptable, and what are not. However, if you delve deeper, if you pull apart words that you say in your everyday life you will discover that they can change the whole idea of your statement, whether you intend to or not.
I have become aware that I unintentionally use the word “just.” Such a funny word. One in which can change your innocent comment into one in which is rather negative. Nothing is ever ‘just.’ ‘Just a minute’ often means more than a minute, or could be less than a minute. If someone asks ‘how long are you going away for?’ and you reply “just 6 nights” it implies that 6 nights is not enough, when someone else would love to be away for 2 nights, and 6 nights would be an absolute dream. The minute you put the word ‘just’ in front of anything you are toning it down. ‘What are you studying?’ ‘Just massage therapy’ like that is not enough? It automatically indicates that you don’t hold value to what you are studying, when being a massage therapist can help so many people in so many ways. ‘I’m just a nurse.’ You are the person attending to sick individuals every day in a way that no-one else can. ‘I’m just a cleaner.’ You help prevent people from getting sick by keeping buildings, workspaces, frequently visited places clean. Are you getting my drift?
Be mindful of the way in which you speak. It certainly is reflective of how you view yourself and the world around you. The words you say can denote if you have a positive outlook, with the glass being half full, or a more negative outlook with the glass being half empty. Being conscious and actively attempting to change the words you use on a regular basis can assist you in changing your whole outlook.
You are never ‘just’ anything.
Remember that, you are never ‘just’ anything.
Mindful Mel 🙂