My year of yes!

Recently I finished reading Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. This self-help book was about Shonda’s experience of living a life where she said no to pretty much everything. One day her sister said to her “you say no to everything.” This simple statement changed Shonda’s life, where she decided to say ‘yes’ to everything that scared her for a whole year. Shonda’s year of yes changed her life for the better – she began to enjoy things that she never imagined, she did things that she never imagined, and demonstrated exactly what amazing things can happen when you step out of your comfort zone.

I found this book fascinating, and it made me think – what could I start saying yes to? Obviously saying yes to absolutely everything is not practical, nor do I want to compromise my own values and beliefs – so I’m not going to hit up my local drug dealer for a cheeky hit, start smoking cigarettes, or sleep with the next bird or budgie that comes along – I still have my dignity people! But what could I say yes to???

Yes to trying new things

Be it a new fitness class, a new hobby, a different café or restaurant, a new course, cook a new dish – who knows what else? And I am not going to write myself off as being ‘bad’ at something before I have even tried. Sometimes it takes a little bit of time, practice and patience to find the ‘groove’ of trying something new – but who knows what is out there and what possibilities trying new things could create?!

Yes to socialising

It is so easy to fall into the same work/home routine. It’s so easy to say “I’ve had a big week, so I’m just going to stay in.” I’m going to get my butt off that couch (not that I sit on the couch often…I’m going to get my butt out of the house) and hang out with family and friends. Sometimes just hanging out with your nearest and dearest, or like-minded people can boost your mood and be just what you need.

Yes to self-love

It is so important to love ourselves in order to love others. How can we possibly love others if we are our own worst critic? We are often quick to point out or flaws, and talk down compliments from others, but what is so wrong about acknowledging our strengths? Absolutely nothing!!! As a Kindergarten Teacher, our program plans are based upon children’s strengths – so I am going to apply this to my life too. This does not mean I’m not going to acknowledge my flaws, but use my strengths to help improve my flaws.

Yes to self care

Self care and self love come hand in hand. This year I have been working on self care and it has been brilliant for my own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing. Therefore, I am saying yes to continuing my self care practices – writing in a journal, meditating, going to the gym, reading a book, using body lotion after a shower, watching Netflix – what ever helps to recharge the batteries and heal the mind, body and soul. I have found doing a number of these things has helped me not only feel better about myself, but has made me more available to others.

Yes to healthy eating

For those who know me, I have the biggest sweet tooth. I’m the person who goes to a restaurant and will read the dessert menu before anything else. I am also notorious for not drinking water…or really much of anything else for that matter. So yes to the fruit and veggies, yes to the water and herbal tea – load me up buttercup!

I think that is a great start for my year of yes! As time progresses, and as new situations arise I am sure I will become more aware of other potential ‘yes’ moments. I will keep you posted on what else I stumble upon – wish me luck!

I hope my fellow readers join me – what will you start to say yes to?

Until next time – Sunshine, Lollipops and Rainbow’s

Melissa xo


Author: mabarberlissa

Hi and welcome to my blog! The aim of my blog is to share some of my experiences, my thoughts and feelings about mindfulness, while providing strategies on what gets me by in this ever changing, ever moving world! I hope that my readers gain something out of the entries as well.

One thought on “My year of yes!”

  1. Awesome post Mel! I’m going to add this book to my reading list. I need to start saying yes to more experiences and not getting too stuck on the couch or fixed in my routines. Thanks for sharing and keep up the great writing. Yes! Yes! Yes! ❤️yvette


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